Five Things I Learned in March {3/28}

Hi y’all! 🙂

On Fridays I typically share five highlights from the week, but like last month, I’ll be sharing what I learned this month and linking up with Emily at Chatting at the Sky. So without further ado, here are five things that I learned this month …

ONE. Doing it “all” is not possible and trying to do it “all” isn’t healthy.

A few weeks ago a friend reminded me that we can’t be productive every hour that we’re awake (or even the majority of them). She said it so nonchalantly but it was so profound for me. I have gotten it in my head that every day it should be possible for me to work out, put in a full day’s work at my day job, walk my dog, save money while grocery shopping, cook dinner (and pack lunches for me and Matt), do projects around the condo, blog…. oh and be a great wife, friend, sister, and daughter. That’s daunting for me. When I go into a day with the expectation that I can do all of these things if I just try hard enough all day, it leaves me feeling disappointed at the day’s end when things are left undone. I’ve been learning (for a long time, but more intentionally the last month), that I can’t do everything and it’s not healthy for me to try. I have to make choices about what I’m going to do and when I say “yes” to one thing, I have to be willing to let other things go undone.

TWO. I need more down time than I typically give myself.

This kind of goes with #1, but over the last month I’ve given myself more down time. I’ve relished more time reading on the couch by not trying to always squeeze in “one more thing.” Through this I’ve learned that I need more down time than I had been giving myself. I end up getting more done if I get more sleep. I am more productive at work if I have already decided that I’m going to have time to read a few chapters in my book before bed, instead of having a long evening to-do list hanging over my head.

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THREE. I need to ask more questions before I start stressing planning.

A few weeks ago, Matt and I were discussing a decision that could cause some changes and stress.* We talked about the general framework and then decided to talk more in-depth about it the next evening. I spent the next day stressing about it and making lists of ideas and questions. When we both got home from work and talked briefly, we decided against the change. All of my worrying had been useless. I mean, all worry is useless, right? This was just especially needless. I should have asked more questions and made sure that we were going to make the change before I began planning and making lists. I could have saved myself some time and stress.

*No, not a baby. We’d like to wait a while longer! 

FOUR. WhimseyBoxes are awesome!

I’ll do a full post later, but my awesome sister-in-law bought me a 3-month membership to WhimseyBox, a subscription-based service that sends you a monthly craft complete with supplies and instructions. I got the first one on Monday and did it last night and it is SO fun! I may be addicted!  (P.S. If you use this link, you can get $5 off your subscription – it’s worth it!

Whimsey Box

FIVE. Stomach bugs are horrible.

Matt and I got hit with what we thought was food poisoning on Sunday night /Monday morning. Apparently there is a vicious stomach bug going around that is being mistaken for food poisoning; since our timeline didn’t make sense for food poisoning, we think we had this bug. While this was a really rough couple of days, it made me appreciate our access to safe, healthy food and medical care. I made an easy trip to the store on Monday to get Gatorade, soup, ginger ale, etc. and it was a relief to know that we were only a couple of miles from Urgent Care even though we didn’t have to go. My sweet friend Ashley is facing much harder circumstances in Uganda and this week was a reminder for me to pray hard for her and our friends in Uganda as they face much bigger health concerns with far less friendly circumstances.

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend! We’re starting to paint he kitchen cabinets this weekend!  I’ll be back next week with updates and to tell you more about my WhimseyBox! 🙂

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I’m linking up with Emily at Chatting at the Sky, with Lauren for High Five for Friday, with Diary of a Real Housewife for Friday Favorites, and with the girls of Five on Friday (DarciAprilChristina, and Natasha)You can see my other Friday posts here.

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  • Laura

    Hi from the link-up! I’ve never heard of Whimsey Box, but now that I’ve seen your post I totally want it! What a fun idea! Thanks for sharing!

    • Helen Archer

      Thanks Laura! You should check out Whimsey Box – it’s so fun!

  • Teresa Tackett Hardymon

    I have learned over the years that if I have too much on my plate it overwhelms me and I freeze up and get nothing productive done. But, if I’m not doing too much, sometimes I feel guilty like it’s not enough. It is definitely a balance and a reliance on the Holy Spirit to guide me. #3 I do the same thing. My husband applies for a job and I start looking at houses online before we even know if he is going to get an interview or not! Love the title of your blog and the story of how it came about! I clicked over from Emily.

    • Helen Archer

      Hi Teresa! Thanks for stopping by and I’m glad you like the story behind my little blog and its name 🙂 Oh and I’m the same way – when I bite off more than I can chew, I panic and freeze up. It’s such a hard balance to strike between work and rest! And I’m glad to hear that I’m not the only one that overreacts to potential changes! Have a great weekend!

  • Yuko @ northfield gate

    #1 and #2 – it’s so true yet so hard to remember! I think both “hard work” and “down time” need to be honored, yet it’s hard to keep a good balance between them. #3- What a fun way to get creative! Hope you feel better soon! ox

    • Helen Archer

      Thanks, Yuko! We’re finally feeling better here – stomach bugs are no fun!
      You’re so right – there is a time to work and a time to rest and we have to honor both. It can just be hard to remember and actually practice!

  • Faith Raider

    LOVE your bit about rhythm. Finding your own is so important!!

    • Helen Archer

      Thanks, Faith! I agree – we have to find our own and not compare our rhythm to those of others! 🙂

  • Ashley Wells

    Okay so #1 and #2, oh yes!!!! This year I’m trying to retrain my brain around those truths!

    • Helen Archer

      It’s so hard! You’re right – it’s a matter of retraining our brains to think differently. Thank you for stopping by!

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